So it’s been said: 

“When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory.” 

~Friedrich Nietzsche 

This quote reminds me of my friend’s opinion of marriage…..”because I could see my rocking chair by his when we are old, I decided he was the one I would marry and have children with”

Twenty years ago today Sharon and Scott were married in Camden.  It seemed like there were a 1000 Christmas trees fighting for the spotlight with Sharon in that sanctuary.  She looked beautiful and we loved our pretty Christmas green tea length dresses.  Scott had on a white tux….with tails! Brad walked Kaye down the aisle in his nutcracker sweater and cords.  Donald and I were not married but had been together for about a year. Little did I know he would propose to me just 13 days later.  Our marriage would happen years down the road. 🙂

Then the reception.  It was magical.  Out on the lake~ family friends had built out there and hosted for Sharon and Scott.  Everywhere you turned in that home it looked like a picture directly out of Southern Living Christmas edition. 

Reality of marriage would set in soon enough but this night was wonderful.  Sharon and Scott faced the traumatic premature birth of their daughter, loss of a pregnancy and then birth of their son and relocation to Fayetteville, all in the span of 3 years.  Marriage is not easy and trials abound but they persevered. 

Their children now are 17 and 14.  Almost grown.  They live in the same home that they have since they moved to Fayetteville.  They have grown apart and back together. Settling in to their marriage.  Learning along the way that the only people to be accountable to is God and each other. I believe they see each other sitting on the porch together in their rocking chairs in the future.  I believe that they love each other and that they understand what marriage is all about…It is about COMMITMENT and their promise to God and to each other. In sickness and health, for better or worse ~ let NO MAN put asunder. So when you see Sharon or Scott in the coming days please say HAPPY ANNIVERSARY and CONGRATULATIONS! They have passed a milestone that few people get to.  It has not been magical, it has not been jet set, it has not been all smooth sailing…..it has been REALITY and reality is better than magic any day because magic is not real. 







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